"Ask for their preferred pronouns and, to the extent you feel comfortable doing so, use them."
Until 5 yrs ago we lived downtown about 8 blocks east and north of Parliament Hill. We had gays or their parents in our house almost every week and occasionally for a meal. The 2 houses east of us had gays living there and 2 of the 3 houses west also had gays. We had good relationship with 2 lesbians and with 2 Trans children and their parents. However, I find that I am just not smart enough to remember each persons unique pronouns. If they/them/their were used that would be fine for me. It is essentially a condition of employment at universities here to use whatever pronouns a gay or any person wants. I once saw a video where a prof in "queer studies" (their term) said that they kept pronouns on their phone directory as they could not remember them either. I was told to pick my own pronouns so that they could use them, and I chose pronouns from a Semetic language (Amharic) which are somewhat complex to get right.
"Ask for their preferred pronouns and, to the extent you feel comfortable doing so, use them."
Until 5 yrs ago we lived downtown about 8 blocks east and north of Parliament Hill. We had gays or their parents in our house almost every week and occasionally for a meal. The 2 houses east of us had gays living there and 2 of the 3 houses west also had gays. We had good relationship with 2 lesbians and with 2 Trans children and their parents. However, I find that I am just not smart enough to remember each persons unique pronouns. If they/them/their were used that would be fine for me. It is essentially a condition of employment at universities here to use whatever pronouns a gay or any person wants. I once saw a video where a prof in "queer studies" (their term) said that they kept pronouns on their phone directory as they could not remember them either. I was told to pick my own pronouns so that they could use them, and I chose pronouns from a Semetic language (Amharic) which are somewhat complex to get right.